Do you find yourself almost always feeling stressed, overwhelmed, anxious, frustrated and/or feeling like you have waaay too much going on? I’ve been there, and I want to help you find your calm like I have!
I started meditating and learned about yoga around 2008, and I practiced off and on during that time. While I knew the benefits of both meditation and yoga, I couldn’t seem to make myself do it on a consistent basis.
Then, in December 2013, my husband and I had our first child. Before we had her, we agreed that I would continue taking care of the majority of the home (since I work from home, and he works long hours overnight), and he would pitch in more while also, of course, helping with our baby. I’m sure you can see where this is going…things didn’t work out the way I’d envisioned. In his defense, he was working 12 hour nights, seven days a week; so not only did I feel frustrated, I also sometimes felt guilty for feeling frustrated. But because I was trying to find a balance with being a new mother, being a wife, taking care of home, and getting my business on track, I felt I needed more of his help.
A few months after bringing Nailah home, the tension between us was über thick. The only time we really talked was relaying information to each other. This went on until 1) I got — excuse the cliché — sick and tired of being sick and tired; and 2) My husband actually asked me if I still wanted to be with him. Yes, I was frustrated. Yes, I was overwhelmed. Yes, I was miserable and disappointed. But I love him, and I definitely didn’t want to leave.
At that point, I knew something had to give. I decided that since I didn’t like the way I felt, I needed to do something about it. I wrote some new affirmations around how I wanted to feel and made a sincere effort to have a positive attitude. I also did some serious praying, I focused on making myself better and communicating what I needed. Things improved between us, but I still found that I was overwhelmed and stressed with all of my roles.
I re-discovered yoga and meditation at the end of last year, and it has changed my life — and me — so much. Not only have they caused me to stress less and be less anxious, sitting in stillness has allowed me to see that I need to live in the moment, focus on what’s happening in the moment, and go with the flow. Meditation and yoga have also taught me that everything happens when it’s supposed to happen, so I don’t need to rush and obsess with trying to make things happen. Of course, I still have moments when I’m stressed or feel overwhelmed (because that’s life, no matter who you are), but those times are fewer, and I know how to stop those feelings from completely taking over.
BGGTC was created to help other Black women, like you, learn how things like meditation, yoga, and self-care can help you create more calm and peace and live a joy-filled life in the midst of all you have going on. Trust me when I say there is a better way to live!
If you’re ready to create more calm and joy in your life, this is the place for you. And if you have any questions or just want to say ‘hi,’ contact me.