Create More Calm in 2018! 3 Intentions to Set

Black Girl's Guide to Calm

We’ve just begun a new year, making it a great time to set some intentions around finding your calm and inner peace. Creating calm and stressing less allows you to feel more centered and at peace more often than not, you’ll feel better (physically, mentally, emotionally), plus you’ll worry less and be happier.

Now that you know a few reasons why you should be intentional about creating calm, here are 3 intentions to set to help you do just that:

1. Know your stressors. It will be difficult to find your calm if you’re not sure what, exactly, is stressing you. And I know that the thought of not actually knowing why you’re stressed might sound kind of weird, but because we’re such “go, go, go people” and have a lot going on, it’s probably not super easy to pinpoint why we’re feeling overwhelmed. With that said, some common stressors include working long hours, money woes, relationship problems, emotional issues, and unrealistic expectations. Once you figure out what’s stressing you, you can then determine whether you can change the situation or if you need to accept it and learn ways to cope, which brings me to…

2. Have go-to calm practices. While there are some things you can do to get eliminate stress in your life (e.g., limiting contact with people, taking things off your to-do list, etc.), you’ll still deal with stress from time to time — because, human. And that’s where having calm practices come in. Some of my favorites are meditation, mindfulness, yoga, deep breathing, smudging, spending time alone, reading, and crystal healing. Try one (or a few) to see what works best for you.

3. Flow and trust. This is one of the biggest lessons I’ve been learning over the past few years. A huge cause of stress for me has been trying to be in control of everything, and when I couldn’t, worrying about those things I couldn’t control. It’s been challenging (and I still have difficulty at times), but I’ve learned how to go with the flow of what comes in my life — even when I don’t understand — and trust the process and the journey. Know that everything is working FOR you, and life is conspiring in your favor.

“Peace is not the absence of conflict but the presence of creative alternatives to responding to conflict.” – Dorothy Thompson

Are there any more calm intentions you would add? Let me know by leaving a comment!


Black Girl's Guide to Calm

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